Virginity – A Treasure to Protect
The Jewish people held Song of Songs in high esteem and considered it among their holiest books. This book honours conjugal love, including it’s most romantic expressions. One finds there a theology of sexuality, which, as designed by God, offers unfailing beauty and incomparable worth. The Creator designed this most intimate union to reveal knowledge of the ultimate level (Genesis 4:1) to demonstrate the most absolute unity (Genesis 2:24) to unleash the deepest comfort (Genesis 24:67; 2 Samuel 12:24) to continue the generations through procreation (Genesis 1:28) to guard against temptation (1 Corinthians 7:2-5 and even to provide relaxation and play (Song of Songs 2:8-17, 4:1-16) If used in the proper place and time (one man and one woman, within the God-blessed union of marriage) sexual intimacy is good, powerful, life-giving and unifying in a unique and meaningful way. For a woman it is the key to her unique task – conceiving and nurturing in the womb new life, producing hand-in-hand with the Creator God the next generation.
Outside the marriage, sex is a counterfeit relationship in which abiding satisfaction is exchanged for immediate gratification and something of great value is forfeited for a transient pleasure. The beauty and lasting worth of a God-designed intimacy is sacrificed for an unseemly and fleeting encounter that perverts the perfect plan of God.
The phrase “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (Song of Songs 2:7) may be interpreted as a warning against the arousal of sexual passion before marriage. The young bride is pleading with the women of the court not to be promiscuous – not to deny them earthly sexual pleasure but to protect for them the divinely designed treasure of sexual intimacy within marriage.
The mutual love between Solomon and the Shulammite is a beautiful example of marital bliss in physical intimacy. Nowhere else in Scripture is the physical beauty of womanhood more effectively portrayed. Yet, in the midst of the pleasure and beauty found in sexual intimacy is always the duty to follow the designer’s plan for reciprocity as each partner seeks to meet the needs of the other and for exclusivity as each protects the treasured “one flesh” relationship (Genesis 2:24-25). This intimacy may then be fully enjoyed and the purpose of the Creator fulfilled. We dare not prostitute through our own selfishness and unbridled desires the unique intimacy that is God’s most glorious seal of unity on the marriage.
How do you feel about saving yourself for your husband in today’s times?
Do you think this should still apply in 2011 as it was in Biblical times?
What does ‘Virginity’ mean to you?